Here's a message that needs to be drilled into the hearts and minds of
every mom and dad: You don't love your kids because of what they do, but
because of who they are.
Simply rewarding children with affection because of their accomplishments
is like a circus trainer giving a dog some food every time he jumps through
a hoop. The dog isn't loved for himself, but for his actions.
Dr. Laura Schlessinger, the popular talk show host, has a new book for
children titled, "Why Do You Love Me?" Part of the story includes a mother
explaining to her son that it is not what he does that makes her love him
-- she loves him because he is unique and because he is her son.
You don't show affection simply because a child is good at karate or
gymnastics. Every mom, dad and grandparent needs to memorize the words of a
long-time popular song: "I love you most of all because you're you."
