I remember the night in Miami when our son, Ian, was just five years old.
We were staying with relatives and it was his bedtime. When I looked at
the living room floor, I knew we had a problem. Toys were all over the
place. "Ian," I said, "you need to pick up all those toys before you go to
"Daddy," he said, "I'm too tired to pick up my toys."
My immediate inclination was to force him to clean up the room. Instead, I
went into the bedroom, laid down, and said, "Ian, come here. Letís play Humpty Dumpty."
He climbed up on my knees and I said, "Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall. Humpty
Dumpty had a great fall." And he fell. Ian laughed and said, "Let's do it
again." Well, after the third "fall," I said, "Okay, but first go pick up
Without thinking, he ran into the living room and in ninety seconds he
finished a job that could have taken half an hour. Then he jumped back on
my knees and repeated, "Daddy, letís do it again."
"Ian, I thought you were too tired to pick up those toys." He answered, "I
was, daddy, but I just wanted to do this!"
We can finish any job when we have the "Want to!"